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Of More Kindness and Good Friendships



Ann Platinum spoke of kindness in a new country a few weeks ago. And I would love to pile on some more about KINDNESS and how it has been a saving grace in these dark times.

We can describe 2020 in so many words but one word that does it for me is BUSY (Chilombo and Nurse Yve actually got me a cake for that 😉 ). Three days into the year, I got busy moving house. A lot of you can relate to how packing up stuff and unpacking them all over again suck. There’s absolutely no fun in that. Moving was a daunting task. Settling into a new place even more so. But guess what, my friends came through BIGLY. By some divine coincidence, Yve and her family live two lanes from me and for the first two months, her mom cooked dinner for me. My evenings were fun filled as we would spend time talking about everything and nothing after dinner. Even though I cook my own meals now, I have a standing invitation for Saturday night fufu, which I never miss…scratch that…which I dare not miss because Da Feli won’t forgive me if I did. The support from Yve and her clan will fill an entire page if I were to go on so I will leave it here. 


Then there’s the President of Allenville who would visit not only to provide company but all sorts of support. A few months after moving, I was faced with water challenges. The water supply system was faulty and so I had to rely on tankers to bring me water. Presido said, “I will pay for your water in the meantime until the problem is solved”. I cried!

Then there were those house warming gifts I received even though I couldn’t organize a real housewarming party (at least not yet 😁) for a number of reasons. But those very thoughtful presents have made it possible for me to be well ensconced in my new crib (“it resembles your eyes”). 

Away from my move to a new place…

There has been some other major development which I cannot open up about now (further testament to how busy I have been😉) and my girlfriends have been super awesome. I cry a lot when I behold their goodness to me. We all deserve that kind of love and support from those in our inner circle. And if you are not getting that, it’s time to evaluate the people on that list. 


In the wake of a public spat between two “celebrity friends” (using these words advisedly) on social media, some of the discussions came down to whether having friends was a good thing or a bad thing. One disturbing trend was the number of people who were shouting the phrase “that is why I do not have friends”. An unfortunate thing to say if you ask me.

It is not a badge of honour to say “I do not have friends”, to quote Yve. Just like everything in this world, there are good friends and there are bad friends. Indeed, bad friends can leave you with bitter experiences but the splendours of good friendships trumps all that negativity. Be deliberate about your friends. Choose people who make friendship worth your while. And if one day that “good friend” messes up, be matured enough to talk it out. Humans are not PERFECT!


As Mariama Ba says;

“Friendship has splendours that love knows not. It grows stronger when crossed, whereas obstacles kill love. Friendship resists time, which wearies and severs couples. It has heights unknown to love.”

On this, I am in perfect accord with my FRIENDS.


Spread love. Be kind. May you find the joys of friendship.


Corona Feelings by Ama K



 

Comments

  1. Ann5 August 2020 at 14:10

    Great write-up. Verily indeed, nothing beats great friendships.

    It's the sail that keeps our boats afloat in this journey called life.

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  2. Bogusgirl5 August 2020 at 14:15

    🤗🤗

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  3. Esallyn5 August 2020 at 14:34

    I love the kindness we share 😘. We make the world a better place with kindness.

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  4. Yawa5 August 2020 at 15:17

    Sharing our smiles with the world is a symbol of good Friendship and peace. Good friends do exist. 🙏🤗😘

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