“I danced the *kpalongo, fearing nothing for my sanity, or common sense. I added a few foreign steps to disorientate the discontented so-and-so: flamenco,can-can, Irish dancing from side to side. Nothing could take my joy away from me. The sun sent her blessings. My sweat baptized me.” ~Enitan Taiwo.
The day Fanny told me “everything good will come”, I felt she was in a better place so she could afford to say things like this to me.
I thought she didn’t understand my pain. I am sure she sensed I wasn’t impressed. Those words sounded like she was being dismissive of my pain. That was far from it. Now, I know better. Thank you, Fanny.
I have learned; those words are one of the kindest words someone can say to you. You have to enjoy the process. It’s all yours! What’s life without the downs? The bumpy rides make you appreciate life on a smooth road (when you eventually get there). We will all get there soon.
I have been mouthing “everything good will come” for a long time. Recently, it hit me. “Everything good has come”.
The good came in the form of good friends.
It’s always pleasant whenever Yve calls me to discuss an issue and she goes like.... “I want to find out if I am not insane for thinking this way”. I am happy she sees me as her sanity check. The morning she called after reading a portion Michelle Obama’s book which reminded her of me, was quite an unforgettable one (I’ve had good days). Whenever she passes through my office, I am elated to have a caring friend.
The wine will not drink itself, I have Agnes, Loretta and Ann to share it with. I drink my best wine with them. I share crazy jokes with Vivian and it’s unbelievable how we can switch from serious issues to funny stories. We laugh a lot. She’s always a good-sport when you need to have fun conversations.Vivian understands.
I have experienced the beauty and splendors of having good people around me.
Then good came in books, I love to think of the characters I read about as humans(sometimes I put a face to them).
It buys me time to figure out my personal issues.
It was Sefi Atta’s book, Everything Good Will Come that taught me how to appreciate and embrace it all (the pain and the pleasure). That’s why I will forever be grateful to Fanny for introducing Sefi to me. I agree with her now, Sefi is a better writer(I’ll not mention who we compared her to).
The good showed up in the form of my sister. I love how my sister would call and follow up with visits (Covid didn’t stop her from showing up). She insists on the visits.
I was quite anxious with the visits because of Corona but she came even when I told her I’ll meet her at the gate and again ,when I was less anxious.
I am thankful Esime.
My life is not perfect, but everything good has come for me. It’s not a destination it’s a process. I’m enjoying the ride.
Fun fact: Ask my friend Fanny how she’s doing and she will respond “I am perfect”.
Corona Feelings by Chilombo
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ReplyDeleteA few years ago, you told me "Everything good will come" after I said "obia bε yε okay" I liked it so much because it complemented my statement; "everything good will come and you will be ok .
Indeed. We will be alright.
DeleteIndeed! Everything good will come and has come! We're on the same page when it comes to Sefi Atta's writing. I never miss an opportunity to tell people to read her compared to "she-who-will-not-be-named".
ReplyDeleteThoroughly enjoying these pieces. Kudos!
I think I know the “she-who-will-not-be-makes”. Yes, Sefi is an exceptional writer and we can’t compare her to any writer. She’s in a class of her own.
DeleteNo truer words ever said. This is a beautiful piece. Thank you for writing this. It is a beautiful reminder.
ReplyDeleteEverything good will truly come. And I must say with you girls, it's already here.
ReplyDeleteAnytime I feel down I remind myself of the little tribe I have and say, "I am loved. I shall be alright".
Thanks for this piece 😘💞
Cheers 🥂
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DeleteYou have been saying everything good will come for the longest time. I am glad I also read Sefi Atta’s book. Indeed “Everythinf good will come”. I remember last year in February when Emefa got disappointed. It was hard hearing our favourite sentence because it seemed like the doors were closing in on her. But she dusted herself and today she got what she wanted. In my darkest moment I hope to continue saying “everything good will come” because everything good has come for me.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha. I was having similar thoughts yesterday. After a bout of 'dark and low' i realise my friends have always been the light. ❤❤❤
ReplyDeleteReally nice piece. This will become my mantra now..."Everything good will come!"
ReplyDeleteYes it should be! Repeat after me “everything good will come”
DeleteOne day me too I will write sense like this. Today is not that day though.
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DeleteLOL! Sometimes you don’t have to write ‘sense’. Looking forward to a story from you though.
DeleteI love this post and all of these comments so much.
ReplyDeleteI was in a pretty bad place for a while; couldn't do shit with myself, not even reading as an escape.
Yvonne let me borrow her copy of Sefi Atta's everything good will come. "...It will be good, everything good will come." is what stuck with me. It was sometime in January 2019.
I'm still holding on to it dearly. Sometimes I chant it consciously. Other times unconsciously. Some days I share it with others. Somedays, it dawns on me that good has come or came at some point.
Lol. It excites me that there are quite a number of us holding on to it.
(👀 I have a feeling I know who y'all compared Atta with)
Glad you had a sentence/ phrase to hold on to during challenging times.
DeleteCheers to greater heights. 🥂🎀
I’m glad this helped you in your darkest moment. Be comforted we all don’t have it figured out but we try each day. “Everything good will come”. 😊
DeleteI was in a very bad shape some years ago when I saw a picture of the book “Everything good will come”on your profile, “Fortunately”I had missed my flight coming to Accra from Lagos ,quickly decided to walk around the shops then I chanced on the book.. I loved it and I appreciate you posting it.
ReplyDeleteIndeed “Nusianu a nyo”
We are all in this together. We will be alright.
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